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Setting an inclusive environment

2/8/2020

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Oftentimes, I'm asked for ideas that can help make a work center's environment more inclusive. The conversations have started like this: "What suggestions do you have that I can use, ya know, put in place now?" "Can ya give me some tangible actions I can employ to help the workforce feel valued and appreciated?"

Admittedly, these requests have often come from a leader who has found her- or himself in a bit of a panic and is merely trying to react as quickly as possible to an unpleasant situation in the workcenter that has probably been bubbling up for a while. Nevertheless, rather than chastise the poor leader in their moment of despair, there are a few impactful actions that can be taken--not just as triage actions for the panicky leader, but also as proactive measures that can be useful tools for the forward-thinking executive who may be looking to establish and foster an inclusive environment. And (bonus point here), they're actually quite simple to put in place and become normal, expected activity. 

Here are a few of those ideas I've shared: 
  • ​Unleash the power of "hello" and a smile
It's simple, easy to do and doesn't cost anything. Workplaces feel more inclusive when people greet each other regularly; and you can set the tone. A stronger sense of comeradie is created, and employees feel more comfortable asking for and lending support and feedback to one another. This must be done with everyone, not just those who look like you, for maximum effect/impact
  • Be sure new hires get introduced to everyone in the room
​This may sound like an obvious gesture; however, it's something that can be easily overlooked or dismissed under the expectation that "someone else surely did this". Taking the time to personally ensure introductions are made conveys the idea that the new hire is, in fact, welcome and that team members are happy to have them as part of the team. 
  • Solicit input from all meeting attendees and provide equal air time
​Not everyone is comfortable with providing input publically, or on-the-spot during meetings. Some may prefer to share their input privately, like via email or in-person prior to or following the meeting. Accommodating for this slight preference could actually mean the difference in getting 100% (or near 100%) participation than not. Do not permit interruption or "speaking over" by the more outspoken attendees--encourage and allow everyone to share their thoughts without interruption. Also, be attentive dismissive behavior directed toward new, junior or even underrepresented members of the group. 
  • Regularly ask your leadership team under you a few pointed questions the answers to which can help foster a more inclusive environment
​What would make this the kind of workplace that you would want to jump out of bed for each morning even faster than you may do now? Imagine you're one of your direct reports, and consider what would need to change to make you want to jump out of bed every morning and come to work. What would that be? What is keeping this from happening now? 
  • Be a vocal ally for marginalized or discriminated against groups
​Whenever you hear racist, stereotypic or homophobic comments or jokes in the workplace, take responsibility to intervene and stop them. Ask others to do the same. Remember, silence implies complicity or consent. 

These are just a few tangible ways inclusion can be fostered in the workplace. These are relatively easy to do, don't cost anything at all, and can (and should) be done by leaders and team members alike. What others come to mind that you could share? 
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Active Listening Leads to inclusive work environments

2/4/2020

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Thomas Edward Belo, my late paternal grandfather, was a man of very few words but was full of wisdom. For me, he is the best example of how to truly listen to people. (Although he passed away more than 20 years ago, I still refer to the example he represents for me in many areas of my life in the present tense because I have yet to identify anyone since him who exceeded the bar he set.) I can remember, as if it were just yesterday, the times we'd sit together on the front porch of his house in rural North Carolina, eating peanuts, waving at people as they drove by--whether we knew them or not, and they'd wave back. There might have been several of us sitting on the porch with him, or only a few; but, the scenario was always the same. It didn't matter who might be sharing their problem or issue or just merely openly recounting the events of the day; "G'anddaddy" (as i affectionately called him) did the least amount of talking. Oh, he might ask an occasional question here or there, but mostly, he'd just grunt or rub his chin or simply utter an "Um hum. And then, once whomever was talking had finished their tale or open-ended request for guidance, only then would Ed Belo speak. 

One day I conjured the nerve to ask him why he would let the other person do more of the talking, even if he already thought he might have the answer for them. "Buddy, God give us all 2 years and one mou' fuh a reason. I s'pose it's on-a counta He want us ta listen ta what they's saying twice as much as He want us ta say sumpin' back ta 'em." [To be clear, those were not typos in my attempt to quote him phonetically. You see, he spoke in a distinct soft-spoken Carolina drawl that was peppered with mispronunciations and broken English grammar, indicative of limited formal education, such that "2 years" equated to 2 ears, "s'pose" equated to suppose, and so on.]

This post offers my reflection on some of my granddaddy's wisdom--particularly on the example he taught me about listening to others. And as I reflected on it, I came to realize that his was an example in helping to foster an inclusive environment. One thing I have noticed, and have come to understand as I've gotten older, is that the way we listen to others can have a profound impact on the relationships we have, both at work as well as outside of work. Active listening allows and can encourage people to recognize you as someone who not only can be trusted but someone in whom they would be willing to listen. (Such was the case with my grandfather. Not only did family members love, honor and respect him, but so did other Blacks AND Whites throughout all of the rural areas of Archdale, Trinity and Glenola, North Carolina--something not very common during the Jim Crow days, '70s and '80s in the Southern United States.) Active listening requires that one fully concentrate, understand, respond and then remember what is being said. 

So, here's what I've learned from good ol' Ed Belo about why developing strong listening skills is important. Obviously, listening allows you to obtain facts necessary to make decisions. But since we're talking about listening in the context of developing or maintaining an inclusive work environment, listening is essential to building trust. In order to develop trust, attention must be paid to each other in order to understand and appreciate one another's strengths and weaknesses. 

Another  reason why developing strong listening skills is important in the workplace is that, particularly for managers/supervisors, morale and productivity can be improved by listening for and trying to understand what motivates each employee. Listening to employees can allow for discovery of what aspects of the job s/he finds most rewarding and challenging. Be advised, though, a single conversation won't allow for this level of understanding. Additionally, listening can reduce the severity of conflicts. Conflicts in the office can arise when employees feel misunderstood, mistreated or even neglected. 

To be an active listener, a lot of concentration and determination is necessary. Here are a few techniques I've come across that can help develop, or strengthen active listening skills: 

Be Attentive
To "attend" to another person means to be present, give attention to, and remain ready to serve. Mentally screen out distractions, such as background activity and noise, familiar faces passing by trying to get your attention, etc., as much as you possibly can. Try not to focus on the speaker's accent or speech mannerisms (if such exists and is different from your own). Lastly, don't be distracted by your own thoughts, feelings or biases.

Show That You Are Actually Listening
I can remember being taught, as a child, that it's rude to interrupt. I'm not sure whether that instruction is being taught as much anymore today. Clearly, the opposite is being modeled in many areas of our lives, where loud, aggressive, in-your-face conduct is condoned, if not encouraged. Interrupting can send many messages: 
  • "I'm more important that you are."
  • "What I have to say is more important, interesting, or relevant than what you're saying."
  • "I don't have time to hear your opinion."
  • "This is a contest and I'm going to win."
We all think and speak at different speeds. If you happen to be a quick thinker and agile talker, then (like it or not) the burden is on you to relax your pace for the slower, more thoughtful communicator or the person who might struggle expressing themselves. (Full transparency here: I know this is one of the components I struggle with. I typically tend to be quick on my feet and seldom struggle finding the words to say.)

Provide Feedback
Show whether you understand where the speaker is coming from by reflecting their feelings. "I bet you were thrilled!" "Oh, that must have been terrible for you." "I can tell that was probably disheartening for you." Or some other indication that can be relayed genuinely to show that you understand how they may be feeling. Or, like Ed Belo, you can just nod or utter an occasional "Hmm" or "uh huh." 

Defer Judgment
Listen without judging the other person or mentally criticizing things they tell you. If you're alarmed by what is said to you, go ahead and feel alarmed; however, don't cast judgment, particularly when someone is confiding in you. Doing so seriously risks compromising your effectiveness as a listener. Listen without jumping to conclusions. The speaker is using language and wording to best represent the thoughts and feelings inside their mind. Only by listening can you know and begin to understand what those thoughts and feelings are. Lastly, don't be a sentence-grabber--that is, interrupting and finishing their sentence. Allow them to finish their own sentence(s) because they are the ones experiencing the thoughts and feelings they're having. 

Try to Feel What the Speaker is Feeling
Empathy is the heart and soul of good listening. Try to put yourself in the other person's place and allow yourself to feel what it is like to them in that moment. This is not easy to do! It takes energy and concentration. But it is a generous and helpful thing to do, and it facilitates communication like nothing else. 

Pay Attention to What ISN"T Said
The majority of what we say doesn't come out of our mouths. Excluding email, the majority of direct communication is non-verbal. Even over the telephone, almost as much can be learned about a person and what's being communicated from their tone, cadence of their voice and even their silence than from anything they might actually say. Face-to-face with a person, enthusiasm, boredom and even irritation can be easily and quickly detected in their expressions. When listening, remember that words convey only a fraction of the message. 


I now understand why my "G'anddaddy" used his ears more than his mouth. There's so much involved that one mouth should not be engaged when 2 ears are there to help do the work. 


Building and maintaining and inclusive work place environment and relationships requires good listening skills. I would argue that active listening is the basic tenant to interpersonal skills, which provide the foundation to effective and inclusive work places environments. 
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